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I know Ansel Elgort, 20, as the lead in The Fault in Our Stars, with Shailene Woodley. It wasn’t until I read his new interview with Elle that I remembered that he was also in Divergent with Shailene, the second installment of which comes out in March. For some reason his character wasn’t that memorable. Elgort comes across as nerdy to me, and he sort-of confirms that in this interview. He’s also surprisingly candid. Elle asks him about his first time having sex, and he admits he was 14 and he had “no clue” what he was doing. He also talks about dating and about the “amazing sex” with his girlfriend, whom he doesn’t mention by name:

You’re 21 years old. Don’t you want to sow your oats?
I like romanticizing romance. I don’t know how open I’m supposed to be here.

As open as you’d like to be.
I think I could say this: If you like someone and the sex is really good and you enjoy spending time together, why wouldn’t you make that person your girlfriend? Why go around dating random girls and having terrible sex when you can be with someone you really like?

You once tweeted, “My paradise is sitting on the couch, producing and playing Grand Theft Auto.” Is it hard to find a girl who enjoys that?
It is. But I have that. So I’m happy.

You’re dating someone?
Uh, when does this story come out?

Why? Do you have a date you’re going public with?
People are going to find out eventually. It’s no one famous. To be honest, I don’t mind talking about my experiences in life, but details aren’t for everyone. But if you can find a girl who you can go to an EDM concert with, have a conversation with, who will sit on the couch and watch you play GTA for three hours—and then you go to bed and have amazing sex? That should be your girlfriend.

What can you tell me about your first time?
I was 14. I had no clue what I was doing, and neither did the girl.

What would you have done differently?
I didn’t even make the lighting good. That’d be one thing I’d do differently. It was, like, fluorescent, bright bedroom light, like, over the covers.

Did you wait a long time to do it again?
No, no, no. Definitely not. The only thing that made me feel better was doing it again.

Okay. Thank you for your time.
Don’t make me sound like a playboy, because I’m not.

You’re into monogamy! We’ve established that.
Yeah. Cause if someone I’m monogamous with reads this, I don’t want them to be upset if it sounds like I’m a playboy.

[From Elle]

14 sounds so young to me, but I have a 10 year-old son and I don’t want to think about it at all. In terms of Elgort’s girlfriend, he’s said to be dating his high school sweetheart, Violetta Komyshan, whom he split with and reunited with recently. The two met at LaGuardia High, the Manhattan arts school on which Fame was based. He shouldn’t be worried that he sounds like a playboy in this interview, he should be worried that he sounds like a self absorbed teenager. He makes the relationship sound like one of convenience, but maybe this is how he gushes. Elle is wrong, Elgort doesn’t turn 21 until March 14.

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