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Bethenny Frankel has an interview in People Magazine to promote her new book, I Suck at Relationships So You Don’t Have To: 10 Rules for Not Screwing Up Your Happily Ever After. Single Bethenny has defended the content of her book by saying she learned from her failures. Judging from some of the things Bethenny told People, she assumes that her mistakes make her an expert in the “do as I say” department, and that’s just not the case.

It’s true, I suck at relationships. It’s like I see the island. But I have a difficult time swimming there.

She wants love more than success
Everybody would think all I ever wanted was success. I think the success I created was probably like a false sense of love, being on television and connecting with an audience. But if anybody ever asked me what I wanted more, it’s love.

I learn more from my mistakes than my successes. As I say in the book, you think you have someone pegged and you feel blindsided and you are afraid that you’ll do it again so you don’t even want to get into anything because you’re scared.

Offering to pay is ‘emasculating’
Someone said to me recently, ‘We are pricing ourselves out of the market.’ I’m ok with a money gap, but men need to feel in control – there’s nothing more emasculating than a woman pulling out her credit card. I don’t care how women’s lib we are.

She won’t use online tools to meet someone
[Blind dates are] my idea of hell. I don’t like small talk; I like big talk.

I don’t have any [dating] apps. I’m averse to online dating, but then again I suck at relationships, so maybe I should try it.

She won’t marry again
I don’t legally marry again. I’m not saying I wouldn’t stand on a beach and commit to somebody, I just don’t want to be in a contract with someone I love. I want a partner. Someone who is not threatened and not emasculated and not with me for the wrong reasons.

I would not want to date anyone who would want to be on a reality TV show. You have to date someone who has their own identity. Someone’s identity can’t be you.

I self-deprecate, but I don’t actually think I’m a disaster at relationships. You just have to know how to handle me. I’m complicated.

[From People Magazine, print edition, April 20, 2015]

That’s bad advice not to offer to pay, especially once you’re in a committed relationship, and especially if you’re the higher earner like Bethenny. It’s just part of being in a give and take relationship, but I guess Bethenny doesn’t know much about that. She does know about dating drunken former frat boys, and she’ll tell you about it. Radar Online has some details from Bethenny’s book in which she reveals that her last boyfriend, Michael Cerussi, would show up late at her house wasted and looking for a booty call. Just FYI – she met him at a bar. They also have an anecdote about how Bethenny offered to split a $600 dinner bill with Mac. Maybe she partially blames that for their demise, but that was never going to last and I’m sure they had bigger problems. From what I remember of her show, she used to argue with her ex, Jason Hoppy, constantly. In this interview she says she’s looking for a guy who can “handle” her, but maybe she needs to just chill out and do her own thing for a while.

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