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Back in August, Bradley Cooper and Irina Shayk went on a family vacation together, with their daughter Lea. B-Coop and Irina have always seemed close following their breakup, and they seem to effortlessly co-parent their daughter. They’re both New York-based and I think they live pretty close to each other. Despite the rumors that Bradley was seeing Huma Abedin earlier this year, I believe that Bradley and Irina have quietly gotten back together. They’ve been spending a lot of time together in recent months, and they just seem to be in a different place in their relationship.

Well, for Halloween “weekend,” they were out together again. They went to a party in New York hosted by the label Self-Portrait. They were even photographed together, although they didn’t look particularly loved-up or anything. It feels like this has all been a soft-launch of their reunion/reconciliation. Not that it would be earth-shattering if they got back together – it’s just a nice story, honestly. It also wouldn’t surprise me if they have another child together – reportedly, Irina would like another baby, and they would love for Lea to have a sibling. I kind of hope it happens.

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At the Wakanda Forever premiere in LA last week, Lupita Nyong’o wore De Beers jewelry. I didn’t think much of it, because most celebrities borrow jewelry specifically for red carpets and it’s not news. But it looks like that red carpet was the announcement of Lupita’s new brand ambassadorship with De Beers. She’s the face of the jewelry company’s new “Where It Begins” campaign. It looks like this is a very specific quid pro quo – De Beers is a company famously built on exploitation and colonization of the African continent, and now that have an African woman as the face of the company, but in exchange, Lupita got them to support a host of issues near and dear to her heart.

As part of the partnership, she will star in the brand’s new campaign — ‘De Beers: Where It Begins’ — which tells the story of the global luxury brand. Through the campaign, Nyong’o is followed as she discovers a rough diamond and watches it magically transform into magnificent jewellery. Shot by renowned Australian photographer and director Lachlan Bailey, the campaign will launch globally with integrated media activations across multiple touchpoints on November 3.

Likewise, through the partnership Nyong’o will support De Beers’ ‘Building Forever’ commitment, which aims to advance women and girls where its diamonds are discovered. In particular, De Beers will work with Nyong’o in pursuit of the brand’s public goals to engage 10,000 girls in STEM, support 10,000 women entrepreneurs and invest at least $10 million across southern Africa to achieve these goals by 2030.

“With her rare magnetism and elegance, Lupita Nyong’o is a testament to the power of boundless possibilities. Embodying modern and responsible luxury, Lupita is an inspiration for all of us. De Beers is proud that Lupita has joined our Building Forever commitment to people and the planet and we stand with her as she embarks on an exciting chapter in her career,” said Marc Jacheet, De Beers CEO, brands.

Nyong’o added: ”I’m honored to be the first global ambassador for De Beers. This campaign brings to life the transformative power that I feel when I wear De Beers’ diamond creations, and the pride in knowing where they come from and the good they do. Even more importantly, my partnership with De Beers allows me to extend my advocacy for women and girls around the world.”

[From Fashion Network]

I’ve seen some criticism already for Lupita, like how could she partner with a company responsible for so much damage to Africa for more than a century? But let me come at a different way: why is Lupita being held accountable so much more than a white brand ambassador ever would be? Lupita’s not stupid, I believe she went into this partnership with her eyes open, and she had specific goals about getting De Beers to fund certain programs. It’s ridiculous to assume that Lupita is unaware of the damage De Beers has done, just as it would be ridiculous to hold her accountable for, what? Not getting De Beers to pay reparations? It looks like she *is* getting them to pay reparations, only they’re not calling it that.

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Katharine McPhee and David Foster have always been an odd couple. Foster is 72 and McPhee is 38, meaning she’s younger than four of his five daughters (Allison, 52, Amy, 49, Sara, 41, Erin, 40, and Jordan, 36). Katharine and David welcomed their son Rennie last year, and everything still seems to be going smoothly. So smoothly that David and Katherine have now recorded a Christmas album/EP called, obviously enough, Christmas Songs. To promote the EP, they chatted with People magazine and they sort of admitted that, yeah, they’re a weird couple but it works for them. David also talks about being a father to this tiny baby after raising all of his daughters forty years ago. Some highlights:

Katharine on their musical taste: “People will always ask us at a dinner, ‘What music are you listening to right now?’ And he and I both just smile and look at each other and say, ‘We don’t really listen to music.’ We don’t listen to music in the car, though I do love putting on some jazzy stuff for dinner parties and stuff.” Adds Foster: “It’s not our thing to come home and put on music. We have a full life outside of music.”

Rennie travels with them: “He’s so much fun,” McPhee says. “We’re having such a great time, and we’re incredibly busy. We wish we weren’t traveling quite as much, but we get to take our little guy with us for most of this stuff.” So far, Rennie has traveled internationally to Mexico, Tokyo and Europe and domestically to Hawaii, Omaha, South Dakota, North Dakota and Las Vegas with his parents on their An Intimate Evening with David Foster & Katharine McPhee tour — and McPhee jokes “he won’t remember any of it.”

Foster’s dreams for his son: Still, Foster says “every day” with Rennie “is an adventure” — and he’s already showing his musical talents on the piano and his electronic drum pad. “We think [he’ll be musical], but we don’t know,” he says. “Kids, strangely, will do something for a while and then it’ll amaze you and then they just drop it and they don’t do it anymore. So we don’t know if the drumming thing is here to stay — I’d rather he have a tennis racket in his hand than a drumstick to tell you the truth. But anyway, if he ends up being a drummer, that would be great too. He loves watching our drummer, JR Robinson.”

Foster on welcoming another child in his 70s: For Foster, having a new baby was “not something” he thought was going to happen in his 70s, but “I haven’t regretted a single day of it. I’ve loved every single day. It’s the standard thing of like, ‘Oh, well you were so young when you had your children and you were working day and night, you never saw them.’ And there is some truth to that, sadly, for my [older] kids. I was just working a lot. Even though I’m working a lot now, I’ll cancel anything just to hang with him. It’s just different.”

Foster on his age difference with Katharine: Though Foster says he and McPhee “know we’re an unconventional couple,” they are certain they are the right fit for each other. “With Céline and [late husband] René Angélil, there was a big age difference, and after I was working with them for a long time it just became Céline and René. It just looked and felt normal. But it was, of course, kind of odd in the beginning. But I think we’re over that hump now with five years of being together, and hopefully people just start looking like we belong together because we feel like we do.” Adds McPhee: “Even if they don’t, we don’t care. We just love our history, how we met and where we are now. Sometimes we look at each other like, ‘This is so wild that we’re together.’”

[From People]

Yeah, the age and experience difference is a lot, but it’s not like they got together when Katharine was fresh out of high school. She was in her 30s, she already had one marriage and divorce under her belt, and I think she probably just wanted the peace and security Foster could provide her. As for Foster becoming a father in his 70s… like, I couldn’t do that, but whatever. It is what it is and while I have plenty of thoughts, I’ll mind my business. I imagine he does have more time to be a hands-on father these days, as opposed to when his daughters were young. That being said, comparing himself and Katharine to Celine and Rene?? LMAO!!!

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Last week, we heard that Prince William will be “too busy” to attend the upcoming World Cup in Qatar. The FIFA World Cup starts on November 20 (group stages) and the final will be held on December 18. There are huge human rights concerns around Qatar’s hosting of the World Cup – the government used and abused migrants to build all of the stadiums and hotels, and Qatar has a number of anti-LGBTQ laws, meaning gay football fans are being told to stay away from the World Cup. Given the human rights abuses and anti-LGBTQ issues, one would think it would be pretty easy for Football Association President Peggington to make a solid excuse as to why he will not attend the games. He did not – his office has let it be known that William will be “too busy” to attend the games. The only thing he has scheduled for that four-week period is the trip to Boston for Earthshot. Otherwise, the dude is free as a bird. So, even activists are calling out the lazy Peg, especially since William’s office has backtracked and said it’s possible he’ll attend the World Cup if England makes it to the final.

Prince William ’s indecision over whether he will snub the Qatar World Cup due to diary clashes has been branded “implausible” by human rights campaigners. The Prince of Wales currently has “no plans” to travel to the Middle East in time for England’s opening game against Iran on November 21.

But royal sources today confirmed the heir, who is President of the Football Association, could try and clear his diary to make the trip if the England team reach the final on December 18. The controversial hosts have been hit with protests over its poor working conditions for stadium workers during the build-up to the competition, as well as same-sex relationships being illegal there. Sources close to William, 40, have blamed a busy diary during the World Cup for him not attending.

Leading activist Peter Tatchell, who was stopped by police in Qatar this week while holding a solo protest on the country’s abysmal human rights record and treatment of LGBTQ+ citizens, questioned William’s excuses over his busy schedule.

He said: “The suggested excuse that Prince William’s decision is because of a diary clash is implausible, given that the dates of the WC have been well known for over a year. This is a human rights issue, not a political one, so the Prince is entirely justified, morally and constitutionally, to speak out.”

A Kensington Palace spokesperson said the prince could not make the journey “due to the busy winter schedule”, but insisted the heir would “explore” options to travel should England end up in the final as part of a government delegation.

[From The Daily Mirror]

I understand the argument being made to William, where his Tory advisors are telling him that he can’t be “political” at all, meaning he can’t explicitly refuse to attend the World Cup because of human rights concerns. But that brings up several other issues. One, it’s not political to say: LGBTQ people should not be criminalized. It’s not political to say: it’s extremely problematic that the government of Qatar used slave labor to build the stadiums. That fact that William thinks he can side-step those “political statements” by merely claiming to have a booked schedule shows William’s lack of leadership and lack of political sensitivity. It will also look f–king awful if, after all of that, England makes it to the semifinals or finals and William isn’t there OR if he does show up. This is a delicate diplomatic situation and instead of coming into it with some nuance and sensitivity, William’s Tory advisors have carefully positioned him to be screwed no matter what.

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Interestingly enough, we don’t know the extent to which Prince Harry and King Charles communicate. That was unclear during the mourning period and funeral in September too. I would imagine there were moments in September when Harry and Charles spoke directly (especially when Charles was apparently making a point of telling Harry that Meghan was banned from Balmoral), but I would imagine much of what happened during that period was done through third parties. We also know that Charles and Harry were in communication earlier this year, especially during the Fakakta Jubbly. Charles reportedly asked Harry to not talk about their calls and in-person chats, and so far, Harry has honored his father’s request. Which means that whatever we hear about the relationship between father and son is from Charles’s camp. Which makes stories like this kind of interesting. “Sources” tell the Mirror that the Sussexes will not spend Christmas in the UK this year, and that they will “snub” an invitation from Charles. Hm.

Prince Harry will not spend Christmas with the royals after fresh details emerged from his explosive memoir, sources revealed. They said relations are at “near rock bottom” and the Duke of Sussex will snub an invite from King Charles ahead of the book’s global release on January 10. Titled ‘Spare’ in reference to him growing up in the shadow of the heir Prince William, the book has already sent shockwaves through the royals.

Insiders said it was hoped there would be a “thawing of relations” between the warring relatives after the Queen’s death. Harry and his wife Meghan had a low-key return to Britain during the mourning period last month.

But sources said they have “no plans” to again join the family, including William and his wife Kate, for their first Christmas without the Queen at Sandringham Estate in Norfolk.

One insider said the royals were this week “completely caught by surprise” with the title of the book and further details of how Harry would deliver “raw, unflinching honesty”.

The duke is set to delve into the most controversial elements of his royal life. One source added: “This book could spell the end for any relationship Harry wants to have with his family, it’s desperately sad. Everyone is bracing themselves for yet another fraught and frantic period at the mercy of the Sussexes.”

[From The Daily Mirror]

Imagine being this torn up about the TITLE of a book. For Whom The Bell Tolls? *faints* The Great Gatsby? *panic vomits* To Kill a Mockingbird? *violent shaking* It’s just, like, y’all have known that Harry was writing his memoir this whole time? Did you not consider that he was going to give it a punchy title? And no, the funeral did not mark a thawing of relations. It could have been a thawing, but the Windsors had to make asses out of themselves and go out of their way to snub Harry and Meghan repeatedly, so no, there was no thaw.

If Charles had the good sense God gave a goose, he would openly invite the Sussexes to Sandringham for Christmas with no strings attached, and then when Spare comes out weeks later, the Palace could issue a statement saying that it’s old news and that the famously dysfunctional family is trying to make peace and amends privately. It really would be that f–king simple, but Charles can’t problem-solve his way out of a wet paper bag.

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Halloween is the first day of Britain’s Addiction Awareness Week, and surprise surprise, the Princess of Wales was actually prepared for it. In years past, Kate half-asses her “support” of these kinds of dedicated awareness weeks. Kate was the patron of Action on Addiction, but it merged with the Forward Trust last year. Even with the name change, Kate barely does anything more than an occasional video or a visit once a decade. Considering Addiction Awareness Week comes right after Kate and William’s two-week no-work holiday, I’m shocked that Kensington Palace staff even convinced her to do this video. She posted it on social media, and the Forward Trust also posted it online.

Some of what she says in the video:

As patron of The Forward Trust, the Princess of Wales shared a video for the “Taking Action on Addiction” campaign, launching for the second year on the first day of Addiction Awareness Week on Sunday.

“Addiction is a serious mental health condition that can happen to anyone, no matter what age, gender, race or nationality,” Kate, 40, said. “As Patron of The Forward Trust, I have met many people who have suffered from the effects of addiction. Attitudes to addiction are changing. But we are not there yet, and we need to be. Still the shame of addiction is stopping people and families asking for help and people are still tragically losing their lives. We as a society need to recognize that the only way to help those suffering is to try and understand what has led them to addiction, to empathize with them and to be compassionate to their struggles.”

“Please know that addiction is not a choice. No one chooses to become an addict. I want you to know that this is also a serious health condition. Please do not let shame hold you back from getting the help you so desperately need. The charities leading the Taking Action on Addiction Campaign, along with others, are working across the country delivering life-changing work to help people recover and move forward. They are here for you. So please ask for help,” she continued. “I know this was not a choice. Recovery is possible.”

[From People]

Sure. She made similar sentiments last year for the same awareness week. While I believe in everything she’s saying – and addiction truly ravages families and communities – I also feel like it’s fair game to critique her lack of substantive engagement with one of her biggest patronages? Remember when she took a virtual Zoom tour of Clouds House, a rehab center, in 2020? They people who operate the center even pointed out that she hadn’t been there since 2012. She still hasn’t visited it in person in ten years.

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The Crown Season 5 is almost here! Next week, we’ll start the binge-watch, and we can expect wall-to-wall hissy fits from Buckingham Palace. King Charles has telegraphed the idea that he and his allies will “fact check” the series and whine about it a lot, as they already have done for months. The fact-checking should get hilarious when it comes to The Crown dramatizing the infamous “tampon phone call” though, because that really happened. In 1989/93, a tabloid got their hands on a recording of a phone call where Charles and Camilla were speaking like lovers, and Charles suggests that he’d like to live in her trousers, then says no, he’d prefer to live as her tampon. Dominic West – who plays Charles – confirmed to Entertainment Weekly that they filmed the tampon phone call. Now sources insist that the dramatization of the call is “sympathetic” towards Charles and Camilla.

The Crown is planning to depict the notorious ‘tampongate’ phone call between Charles and Camilla ‘sympathetically as two young lovers’ in next month’s series. However Netflix bosses have been blasted for the ‘crass’ and ‘bad taste’ decision to portray the infamous 1989 conversation that sparked a royal scandal.

The call between then-Prince Charles and Camilla, which has been widely referred to as ‘tampongate’, was taped by an amateur radio enthusiast who claimed to have stumbled across the pair’s conversation while moving between audio channels.

During the call, the then prince referred to being reincarnated as the tampon brand tampax, and told Camilla that he wanted to ‘live inside’ her. The audio recording along with a transcript of the six-minute call was sold to a tabloid and published. It was circulated again in 1993 by The People, following the separation of Prince Charles and Diana.

The scene will be delivered ‘sympathetically’ in a bid to show affection between Charles and Camilla, The Telegraph reported. It will also attempt to create viewer sympathy at the intrusion into their lives at the time, the paper reports.

However its inclusion in next month’s series has been called ‘crass’ and ‘in bad taste’ by two of the paper’s sources.

Dominic West, who depicts Prince Charles in the upcoming series, said that he has changed his mind about the conversation, having previously felt that it was ‘sordid and deeply, deeply embarrassing…Looking back on it, and having to play it, what you’re conscious of is that the blame was not with these two people, two lovers, who were having a private conversation. What’s really [clear now] is how invasive and disgusting was the press’s attention to it, that they printed it out verbatim and you could call a number and listen to the actual tape. I think it made me extremely sympathetic towards the two of them and what they’d gone through.’

[From The Daily Mail]

“Two young lovers” – Camilla would have been 42 years old when the call was made? Charles would have been 40 or 41. I mean, sure, they were not “old,” but they were both married to other people and they had young children at the time! Why must we rewrite their sordid history? They were middle-aged and cheating on their spouses. THAT is what is crass and in bad taste, not the dramatization of the call. Anyway, my pet theory is that outlets like the Mail, the Telegraph and the Sun absolutely love all of these storylines and controversies from The Crown. They wrote the narratives at the time, now they get to rewrite the narratives AND have a whack at the new king.

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Elon Musk became the “owner” of Twitter last week. He tried, unsuccessfully, to worm his way out of the purchase or to somehow renegotiate the purchase, but in the end, he bought the Nazi hellsite for $44 billion. I haven’t seen any hard numbers to back this up, but I would assume that Musk has already lost money on this investment, as people are leaving the hellsite in droves and advertisers are sure to follow. Pretty soon, the only Twitter advertiser will be MyPillow. Musk is doing the most to devalue Twitter too – over the weekend, he tweeted a right-wing conspiracy about Paul Pelosi AT Hillary Clinton’s account… which he later deleted without apology. We have the owner of Twitter tweeting out hate and fascist conspiracies like he’s still some regular old Nazi sh-tposter. Speaking of Nazi sh-tposting, there’s already a significant rise in hate speech and racism on Twitter too.

In addition to all of that, Musk doesn’t understand – ?? – that the appeal of Twitter was always the fact that it’s free to use. It’s not a private club, it’s a messy democracy. Well, now Musk wants to charge money for verification and Twitter Blue:

Now that he owns Twitter, Elon Musk has given employees their first ultimatum: Meet his deadline to introduce paid verification on Twitter or pack up and leave.

The directive is to change Twitter Blue, the company’s optional, $4.99 a month subscription that unlocks additional features, into a more expensive subscription that also verifies users, according to people familiar with the matter and internal correspondence seen by The Verge. Twitter is currently planning to charge $19.99 for the new Twitter Blue subscription. Under the current plan, verified users would have 90 days to subscribe or lose their blue checkmark. Employees working on the project were told on Sunday that they need to meet a deadline of November 7th to launch the feature or they will be fired.

Musk has been clear in the months leading up to his acquisition that he wanted to revamp how Twitter verifies accounts and handles bots. On Sunday, he tweeted: “The whole verification process is being revamped right now.”

Even though he is barely three days into being “Chief Twit,” Musk has moved quickly to make changes at Twitter, first by changing its homepage for logged out users. With the help of Tesla engineers he has brought into Twitter as advisors, he’s also planning mass layoffs aimed at middle managers and engineers who haven’t recently contributed to the code base. Those cuts are expected to begin this week with managers already creating lists of employees to cut. Employees tasked with executing projects of Musk’s since he took control Thursday evening have been working late into the night and over the weekend.

[From The Verge]

I was never on Twitter Blue nor did I ever get verified, just FYI. While I used to love the Twitter community and I’m probably going to stay on the hellsite until the wheels truly come off, I’m not paying for any of it, plus I’m too lazy and too cheap to get verified. My suggestion would be: stay on Twitter for as long as you can stand it, but don’t pay a dime for it. I also hope advertisers leave in droves. Let’s make this Musk’s dumbest investment.

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Introduction: Minutes 0 to 6:30
In case you missed our last episode, my five month old puppy was kicked out of puppy kindergarten and they wanted me to pay for private lessons for him. I hired someone else and my dog did great! Chandra’s cat watches over her while she sleeps. She’s also watching Murder, She Wrote and Unsolved Mysteries. We talk about UFOs. You can listen below!

Royals: Minutes 6:30 to 26:00
We just got the title, cover and release date for Prince Harry’s memoir, Spare. It’s coming out January 10th but Chandra was hoping it would come out in December. Harry looks so unbothered on the cover.

Last week Duchess Meghan’s Variety interview came out. She was very diplomatic and focused on her life with Harry. We don’t think When Harry Met Sally is the best romcom like Meghan said and prefer Notting Hill and Four Weddings and a Funeral. We think Harry and Meghan should produce romcoms for Netflix. Meghan confirmed the docuseries in that interview. She also spoke respectfully about the Queen.

Meghan’s podcast last week was about the archetype Bimbo and featured Paris Hilton. Meghan opened by saying she felt objectified while she was a briefcase girl on Deal or no Deal, but she was careful to say she was grateful for the opportunity and that it paid the bills and got her insurance and a SAG card. It was a nuanced conversation that was misunderstood by Whoopi Goldberg and Claudia Jordan, another former Deal or no Deal briefcase girl.

This week’s Archetypes podcast focused on the Angry Black Woman trope and featured interviews with Issa Rae and Ziwe. Meghan didn’t talk about how the British press treated her, but it was the subtext. They talked about diminishing themselves, setting boundaries and how women are labeled as “difficult.”

Late last week we got the trailer for season five of The Crown. King Charles keeps telling on himself by objecting so strongly. A friend of the royal family told the London Times the show was trying to destroy the royal family. Judy Dench wrote an open letter to the London Times asking that a disclaimer be added to the Crown. We later learned that she was up for a role on the show which fell through. Netflix did add a disclaimer – to the YouTube description. Netflix executives called out King Charles in a recent Deadline interview.

King Charles is selling off his late mother The Queen’s prized racehorses, which seems petty, especially so soon after his mother died. He could hand over operations to a family member instead and it’s not like he needs the money. I play a segment from Zoom where we talked about the royals.

Camila is in India at some kind of wellness center. I guess we’ll know what she’s been doing if she comes back with a new face. Chandra thinks she’s there to dry out and isn’t there for plastic surgery.

Kanye West: Minutes 26:00 to 32:45
Kanye West is finally facing consequences for being anti-Black, misogynistic and antisemitic. It took long enough. He’s been dropped by The Gap, Adidas, Balenciaga and his agency, CAA. His culty school for kids, The Donda Academy, is also shutting down. He recently turned up at Sketchers headquarters and was turned away by security. I play a segment from Zoom where we talked about Kanye.

Comments of the Week: Minutes 32:45 to end
Kaiser’s comment of the week is from s808 on the response to the announcement of Harry’s book title.

My comment of the week is from Miranda on the post about Dr. Oz saying that abortion decisions should be made by the states along with “women, doctors, local political leaders.”

Thanks for listening bitches!

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When I wrote about Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen last weekend, I ended the post with “My prediction is that we suddenly get some announcement, possibly a few months from now, that everything has been settled quickly and quietly. They’ll make a joint statement and proclaim their love for their children and that’s it.” My gossip mojo was mostly right – the only thing I got wrong was the timeline. I just didn’t buy that Tom and Gisele’s separation was contentious at all – Tom was making a big sad-sack deal about how he felt “abandoned” and Gisele was clearly telegraphing the fact that she had been done for months, but it never felt like they were going to have some big divorce war. In the end, they did not go to war. They worked with a mediator before anything was filed in family court, and they managed to work everything out in about two months or less.

On Friday, TMZ broke the news that Gisele and Tom had already reached a settlement on joint custody of their children, plus all of their real estate holdings. The terms of the settlement are confidential and sealed, but it didn’t seem like a huge fight. They started working with a mediator in “early September” and came to an agreement on everything last week. Everything is being filed in Florida, where Tom is Tampa-based and Gisele is newly Miami-based. The court signed off on the mediated agreement and so now Tom and Gisele are already legally single. Here’s People’s coverage:

Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady quickly got a jump on their divorce, with the former couple finalizing the terms of their split the same day they filed. The divorce paperwork was submitted on Friday morning and approved by a judge soon after, rendering both Brady and Bündchen single.

Quick divorces are rare, but not unheard of, according to NYC divorce attorney Jacqueline Newman of Berkman Bottger Newman & Schein LLP, who is not connected to Brady or Bündchen. “They had already entered into a settlement agreement, which typically includes both financial and custodial issues,” Newman tells PEOPLE. “By the time it was filed, they already had custody, child support, alimony figured out.”

After the couple negotiated the terms of their split, a judge had to give a final approval.

“After a couple agrees on everything, the judge takes a look at the agreement and approves it,” says Newman. “There are situations where judges reject the agreement, usually in a child support situation. But that happens rarely, and usually if the child support seems to be skewed. But that clearly isn’t an issue here.”

Sources told PEOPLE that that the couple had agreed on the terms by Friday morning.

“The settlement is all worked out,” a source with knowledge of the situation tells PEOPLE. “They’ve been working on the terms this whole time.” The source added: “They agreed to joint custody of the kids.”

In a statement posted to his Instagram story, Brady, 45, said that they made the decision to divorce “amicably.”

“In recent days, my wife and I finalized our divorce from one another after 13 years of marriage,” Brady wrote. “We arrived at this decision amicably and with gratitude for the time we spent together.” Additionally, the athlete said he and Bündchen, 42, decided “to end” their marriage “after much consideration.”The Tampa Bay Buccaneers quarterback told fans that he and Bündchen are “blessed with beautiful and wonderful children” who the couple will continue to “work together as parents to always ensure they receive the love and attention they deserve.”

Brady stated that separating from his wife is, “of course, painful and difficult, like it is for many people who go through the same thing every day around the world.” He continued: “However we wish only the best for each other as we pursue new chapters in our lives that are yet to be written. We kindly ask for privacy and respect as we navigate what is to come in the days and weeks ahead.”

Bündchen also shared a statement on Instagram, saying that they had “grown apart,” but also said they came to the decision to divorce “amicably.”

“The decision to end a marriage is never easy but we have grown apart and while it is, of course, difficult to go through something like this, I feel blessed for the time we had together and only wish the best for Tom always.”

[From People]

Even though they’ve both been telegraphing this split for two full months, it still comes as a surprise that A) they worked everything out so quickly, B) they got the court to sign off on the divorce immediately and C) Gisele seems to be completely and totally over Tom already. Personally, I think Gisele did hope that Tom would at least put up a fight for her and for their marriage, and she’s probably a little disgusted that he has not. She said “we should get a divorce” and he was like “okay.” I’m a little bit disgusted with him myself – Gisele was a good wife, she worked really hard to make the marriage work for years, she ran their house and raised their children and when she was upset that he went back on his word, he didn’t even fight for her. It’s sad.

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